I really enjoy learning and have challenged myself to learn something I consider substantial every year. When I was in the first semester of my freshman year in college, it was learning how to learn. When I completed graduate school, it was learning to read for fun. One year, it was learning how to sail big sailboats and another year it was scuba diving. When I turned 50, it was riding a motorcycle, not as a mid-life crisis but as a mid-life adventure. I really look forward to learning the rest of my life.
If there is one thing I wish I knew when I was an early career psychologist and a young husband and father, I think it would have been Motivational Interviewing (MI), a skill or approach developed by distinguished psychologists, William Miller, Ph.D. and Stephen Rollnick, Ph.D. MI as an approach is infused with respect and compassion for the clients we get to know and the people we talk with in our everyday life. According to Miller and Rollnick, MI is done “for” and “with” a person and it is not something done by an expert to a passive recipient, like a master to a disciple. (Miller & Rollnick, 2013, p.15).
Even better, I would have learned this approach in graduate school as I would have been much better equipped to manage my first videotaped, supervised therapy appointment that involved an angry, 14 year-old adolescent who told me she was “forced” to come in by her parents and she would not be talking during the appointment. Well, her commitment to not talk was a 10 on a 10 point scale, and I found out later in supervision that the videotape didn’t catch my heart racing and my fight or flight response kicking into high gear. I suspect we have all had those experiences in our offices where we would like to push the pause button and head to Maui.